Wednesday, May 12, 2010

A LOVE LETTER FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP...LEARN FROM IT!





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MY LOVE LETTER TO TARA...HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!
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Today marks Tara and I's 9th year wedding anniversary as well as my 39th birthday.

Every year, I share a letter that I wrote to her several years ago, which subsequently got published in a magazine. This has become a bit of a tradition between Tara and myself.

It reminds me of where we're coming from; our one bedroom room where we shared a toilet and bathroom with 6 families, to where God has brought us, to a really nice home in Victoria Garden City and an awesome present with an unprecedented future.

Don't give up on your dreams.

I hope it inspires you.

FD

NOW THE LOVE LETTER!


Tara my darling,

Let me quickly confess that the idea to write you a public love letter is Debbie’s (Ogunjobi – EveryWoman) idea but I think it’s a great one! The lady’s simply brilliant. The contents of the letter on the other hand, come straight from my heart and I hope it pleasantly surprises you as much as the thought excites me as I write.

As my pen meets the paper, my mind travels back a few years to July 1999, just before we started dating. We were walking down together along Ilabere Avenue, Ikoyi, just as the sun was setting and we were playing those mind games “what do you want in a marriage?”

I remember how startled you were when I told you that I was going to be a HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL HUSBAND OF A HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL WIFE. At that time, you mentioned how the world thinks this is impossible, either the husband succeeds and the wife does not or vice-versa.



I remember you told me how intimidated most men could be with highly successful wives. “But ………….”, you said with a smile.

Well my darling, time has proven me right …… Today, God has been fantastic and wonderful to us both and not only have we been blessed with great success in both our endeavors, I strongly believe that the greatest success we’ve seen so far is in the beauty of our marriage.

I mean every word when people ask me all over the world what my best decision has been and I reply “it’s following God’s instruction to ask you to marry me”.
You are the greatest of God’s blessings to me ………….., more than life itself.

I keep saying that no other woman could have been meant for me. How many women do you know that would marry a guy in a boy’s quarter that serves as a bedroom and office at the same time? Not many, if any would bet their life on a man who had not much more than a great vision of his future.

Tara darling, almost everyday you say that, I’m the best husband that any woman could have asked for but quite frankly, I think you make the best man that I can possibly be.

You’ve been my best friend since the first time we spoke while I was on that Phillips Consulting assignment to Bauchi. Four years (now 9) later and you are still my best friend and closest confidant today. It’s amazing!

We’ve defied the law of “love fades away’. With you, it’s LOVE GROWS. I don’t know how you make me but I find myself waking up each day loving you more. You know it’s true every time I tell you that I love you greatly but I also like you amazingly. Remember the text I sent to you on how much just speaking to you on the phone is like oxygen? Perhaps, that’s why we call each other every hour we are not together.

(Just for your information dear reader, I just took a 3-minute break to take Tara’s call. She just wanted to hear my voice and tell me she loves me. See what I’m saying?) How could I not be a fantastic husband to such an incredible wife? I really don’t have any other options do I?

My darling, this is just to let you and the whole world know that the last three years since we’ve been married have been the most wonderful of my life and it keeps getting better each passing year. It is true when the Bible says, “the path of the righteous shines brighter and brighter …………” I love how we rededicate our vows each year. You are the best birthday present God ever gave me.
(Dear reader, Tara and I got married on my 30th birthday)

And how can I thank you enough for those two wonderful boys (now 3) you’ve given me? I wonder what I’ll do when my daughter arrives. Get ready for unprecedented pampering.

I think with excitement of how we will grow old graciously together. Every time I think of you in your seventies, it puts a smile on my face. I’m sure you’ll be the funkiest 70-year old chic on the face of the planet. And you can be sure I’ll be the grooviest 76-year old bloke to ‘represent’.

Our children need to watch out for this ‘never grow old ‘ lovebirds they call their parents but the real trip for me is that we’re chosen to be role models for our future generations and I think we are well on our way to doing this.

You know I always say that a husbandman is a ‘Grooms’man, a gardener who tends his plant (his wife) into a beautiful vineyard. That is where a ‘Grooms’man differs from a ‘hunter’. The hunter takes a beautiful thing and kills it but the ‘Grooms’man takes a seed and tends it into an incredibly beautiful garden.

I am committed to working with God to bring out the best you that God has put in you. I am determined on seeing all of God’s dreams for you come to pass. Today, it’s House of Tara, in a short while, the WORLD OF TARA would soon become a reality, the multi-national empire that reveals the real beauty in every woman from the four corners of the world.

The WORLD OF TARA is truly a beautiful world where every woman has been "Tara-rized" into the beautiful queens and princesses that God made them to be. I won't reveal the strategy, but you can trust God it will be real.

It’s amazing how real you have remained despite all the hype. Stay real girl because the world hasn’t seen anything like what the Lord is about to do through your life. Mary Kay would rise to salute you on the day of rapture.

My darling, I remember that night in Jo’burg, South Africa back in October, 1999 standing alone in God’s presence and asking Him about you. He had asked me to read through Proverbs 31 woman and as I read through, your image was being captured from the pages of the scriptures.

I’m convinced God had you in mind when He inspired the writing of Proverbs 31’s wife of noble character.

I am so happy to praise you publicly and say, “many women do noble things, but you surpass them all”. Indeed, Tara is a woman who fears the Lord, therefore, dear reader; join me to give her the reward she’s earned.

I love you baby, for the rest of my life.

With all my love in my heart,

Your husband,

Fela.

This was written by Fela Durotoye on his Birthday and Wedding Anniversary...

It is not just about marriage; it is about understanding and conscious commitment both of them have put into it. In life you get what you put in life! I love this and I ask for the grace to have a good and better love life like yours. Enjoy!

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GOD'S VESSELS SECREET

Nothing can hold anyone down who has in him the yeast to rise! For when it is all over, you'll still bestanding!

Every grteat achiever has a passionate memory of a time in their life when they were given multiple reasons to believe that they were failures. But at last, they proved the critics wrong.

Do you feel overwhelmed by your challenges?
Do you feel like giving up pursuit of your dreams?
do you feel like there's no point trying anymore?

Lawrence Onochie knows that you can make it against all odds as long as you still have breath in your nostrils. Until you strech yourself, you'll never know what you are capable of achieving with your life.

The odds have not been found that can stop a man who will stake his life on his dreams.

Coiled out from AGAINST ALL ODDS, written by Lawrence Onochie. The King's Heritage (+23485007390, +23414360757).
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HABIT AND CHARACTER


Human beings are creatures of habit. We get into a routine that we are comfortable with and we stick to it unless something big comes along and shocks us out of it. Our daily habits often force us to put up with all kind of degrading and destructive events, all in the name of keeping things comfortable or familiar.
We would rather put up with the habits we know because we can put up with them, rather than create new habits that we have never experienced before.The excuses for clinging to our habits range from almost acceptable to completely neurotic. For example, staying in a job that you don't like so that you can continue to pay the mortgage and feed your family is almost an acceptable excuse for staying at your job. It would be just foolish to suddenly quit and start thinking about how to pay your bills.But it is wrong to think that this job that you dislike has to be it for the rest of your life. Sure it's comfortable, you know you can do it, but don't you owe to yourself, your family, and your employer to get out and do a job that is right for you? Nothing will change if you don't change. The first step is recognizing that change is necessary.

Secondly you have to figure out where you would be more fulfilled in your career. Maybe you have to do something more creative, something outdoors in nature, something that allows you to be in different places, or maybe you have to be the one making all the decisions with your own business. When you are clear about what it is that you really want from your career, you have to start taking steps towards it.A new job is not going to come running to you just because you're unhappy with your old one. If it's a new industry you may have a lot to learn before even thinking about applying for new positions. You may have to take classes at night while you put up with your dull job during the day.If it's your own business that you dream of, you may have to start from your home. Working during the night and weekends to move closer to doing it fulltime and leaving your old job. Just because we are familiar with something is no reason to continue doing it. It's easy to get caught up in day to day living - especially if you have a family to take care of - and to put off any changes that could improve your life.
Change can invoke fear, insecurity, and feelings of loss in people. Make the change anyway!Life is not pausing for you while you are putting up with something that you dislike. Life is passing you by while you waste it doing the wrong thing. There's no rewind button, there's only now, and if you're not happy with your now, Change it!

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Love can never be a pretence.
It is plain and white as snow. So playing games in your relationship is creating a black spot that will stand as a testifier against you. What do we gain in fooling our selves? It is good to let you know that unknowingly you repeat cycles and only delay your right partner. Love is not a place for competittion. It is a world meant for two faithful lover. Can you say you are a faithful lover?
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MOTIVATIONAL EXPO


As the new year draws closer and many people are going into holiday mode, some people are thinking about the year ahead. It can be a time for reviewing the year that was and thinking about the year that will be. Many people will be coming up with new year's resolution for 2009 even though they can't even remember what their new years resolution was for 2008! While many come up with a new year's resolution, they do so in a flippant, light hearted manner. We may commit to lose weight or save money, but before January is even finished we will be pigging out on chocolate and buying designer clothes or fast cars.If you're going to take the time to come up with a resolution for the new year ahead, why not make it a serious commitment? Treat it like a real goal that you plan to achieve.

POINT 1- Make sure you are Realistic about the Goal: The reason many goals are not achieved is because they are unrealistic. If you are currently earning 140,000 per year, with no savings, and you want to be a millionaire within the next 12 months, you may be setting yourself up to fail. Lottery should not be a part of your goal setting as you have very little control over winning money. Your goals should be ambitious enough to get you out your comfort zone, but realistic enough to be achievable.

POINT 2- Get Clear about your GoalWrite your goal down in detail with time frames and specific numbers or objectives. If you want to lose weight this year, your goal could be to lose a set number of kilos of pounds each month, with a total to be lost before the end of 2009. Or you may choose to increase sales by 50% for the year.

POINT 3- Set Mini GoalsRather than just focusing on one major goal like saving 20 percent of a home loan for a deposit, have mini goals that are regularly achieved. If you have set yourself 12 months to save 120,000 your goal could be to save 10000 each month. Which means your one goal of 120,000 should be divided into 12 mini goals of 10000.

POINT 4- Be Committed! Understand that if your goal or resolution is even slightly ambitious, it will take time, possibly money, dedication, persistence, and a lot of commitment.It may require further education, more work, risk, and a lot of sacrifice on your part.If you are serious about achieving your new year's COMMITMENT for 2009 it is worth taking the extra time necessary to get clear about what your resolution is and how it will be achieved.

Don't be flippant about the next 12 months and use it to achieve something worthwhile. Some of the most common new years resolutions will be to lose weight, save more money, get out of debt, improve education, find a better job, join the gym, quit smoking, and to spend more time with the family. A lot of these changes will take a lot of commitment and dedication to achieve.

THE SECREET TO PROGRESS IS YOU, THE SECREET TO GREATNESS IS CONSISTENCY AND THE YOU IS THE POSITIVE RESULT OR ATTINMENT OF YOUR PROGRESS MULIPLIED BY CONSISTENCY. HAVE A HAPPY 2009!

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